What Does My Healthy Sexuality Look Like?
With sexual misconduct scandals positively rampant in the news; with malnourished, titillating stereotypes portrayed in the entertainment industry; with so much controversy around sex robot brothels, pornography, and prostitution; with the rising wave of the stinging #metoo movement, it's clear Americans have a way to go to develop a collectively healthy sexual attitude.
Every time you hear about some sort of scandal around sex, take it as an opportunity to ask yourself: what does my healthy sexuality look like?
I asked the question on my Living in Tantra Facebook page, and I invite you to comment on what you think a healthy sexuality looks like and join the conversation. I think there are ten statements people with a healthy sexuality can say.
I am mindful about sexuality, using my sexual energy to heal myself, to foster intimacy with my partner(s), and become the person I want to be.
I am actively discovering my sexual temperament, mindfully exploring my likes, dislikes, my desires, my fantasies, my boundaries, and my rules.
I practice good communication regarding what I want and don't want as I enjoy my sexual energy, and I am comfortable hearing the same from my partner(s).
My sexual energy permeates my body, my soul, and my psyche and is a vehicle for emotional health, spiritual practice, and self-development. Sexual energy is energy for me to live my best life.
I am not stuck in a rut with my sexual expression, nor am I solely focused on one or two particular fetishes. My sexual energy has a variety of expressions, and those expressions are expanding rather than stagnant.
I never use my sexual energy purposefully to hurt someone, and I always obtain consent before I share my sexual energy with anyone.
I am honest about pain, anger, or frustration I may have around my sexuality, and I'm actively seeking enlightenment and relief in those areas.
I educate my self about pregnancy, the menstrual cycle, sexual anatomy, STIs, childbirth, birth control, ejaculatory control and effective sexual hygiene, and I practice good sexual health.
I am learned on sexual etiquette and consent.
I am continually educating myself on best practices for sexual and intimacy issues, emotional health, and self-development.
Can you say all ten truthfully? In what areas can you become more healthy with your sexual energy? When each of us takes responsibility for our own sexual vibrancy, we are healing our culture and healing our world. I know it sounds grandiose. But it's true.
Big love, Dakini Leah, CTE
Leah Kenyon is a Certified Tantra Educator helping people employ their sexual energy for healing, intimacy, and self-development. She serves Colorado's Grand and Roaring Fork Valleys with classes and affordable private sessions. To book, call 242-5094 or email LivingInTantra@gmail.com